Lesson 1: Enhance Your Love Maps
1. Develop a deep understanding: Regularly ask open-ended questions to understand your partner's thoughts, feelings, and desires.
2. Update your love maps: Regularly update your knowledge of each other's love maps to maintain emotional intimacy.
3. Show interest: Demonstrate genuine interest in your partner's life, interests, and goals.
Lesson 2: Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration
1. Practice appreciation: Regularly express gratitude and appreciation for your partner.
2. Cultivate a culture of respect: Treat each other with respect, kindness, and compassion.
3. Celebrate milestones: Celebrate each other's achievements, milestones, and successes.
Lesson 3: Turn Toward Instead of Away
1. Practice emotional intelligence: Recognize and respond to each other's emotional needs.
2. Turn toward bids: Respond positively to your partner's bids for connection, affection, and attention.
3. Avoid turning away: Make an effort to avoid ignoring or dismissing your partner's bids.
Lesson 4: Let Your Partner Influence You
1. Practice active listening: Listen attentively to your partner's perspectives, needs, and desires.
2. Show empathy: Demonstrate understanding and empathy for your partner's feelings and concerns.
3. Find common ground: Collaborate to find mutually beneficial solutions.
Lesson 5: Solve Your Solvable Problems
1. Identify solvable problems: Distinguish between solvable and perpetual problems.
2. Use the "Gottman Method": Approach solvable problems with a calm, respectful, and empathetic attitude.
3. Avoid gridlock: Make an effort to resolve conflicts in a constructive and respectful manner.
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